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Call a thing a thing, beloved

Call a thing a thing, beloved

Iyanla Vanzant has given us many things. My favourite? That phrase: “call a thing a thing, beloved.”  In the past three months, some people have been trying to educate themselves about the social issues facing the world at large and their communities on a more intimate level. But, education doesn’t...
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A walk in Gramercy Park

A walk in Gramercy Park

She had me at: “...A lot of what I’ve been thinking about on my own personal journey is kind of how much we contort and conform and adjust ourselves all the time. With the best of intentions, by the way. It’s from the most beautiful place. We want people to...
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Obligated to do the work

Obligated to do the work

Despite my having retired* from writing, I have committed to writing something for the site every week day of this month. All the content creation “experts” advise to bulk up and make batches of work that you can schedule to publish. That doesn’t resonate with me. So, I’ve been allowing...
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I NEED YOU TO…

I NEED YOU TO…

Our house is the Johannesburg HQ of Tobe Nwigwe standom. The only reason my Dude isn’t the worldwide president is because we don’t have #getTWISTEDsundays. You see us. We keep our hair short for the most part so we’re not twisting anything. Maybe we can call Dude the vice president...
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Update: I have a seat at the table

Update: I have a seat at the table

At the beginning of May, I wrote a post titled: A Year Later: 5 Things I’ve Learned Since Quitting My Job. Number 3 of those 5 things was deceptively simple: I learned that I needed my own work area. I wrote that I needed a desk, a cute chair and...
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Everything you’ve heard about Pheko is true

Everything you’ve heard about Pheko is true

It’s common for people to wax lyrical about someone who has passed. You know, not speaking ill of the dead and whatnot. But, if everything you’ve heard or read about Pheko Kgengoe since we lost him to the coronavirus this week seems really good, you can trust it.    It’s...
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Goodbye, Michael, Hello…new fan?

Goodbye, Michael, Hello…new fan?

Full disclosure: I've never cared about The Office. Not the British version. Not the American version. I don't know if I care right now but I will say this: I'm blindsided. I never espededit. Rewind. My Dude loves The Office. The American version. On a whim a couple of weeks...
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What it’s like to be in a doccie

What it’s like to be in a doccie

When MTV Base commissioned an African version of Yo! MTV Raps, I was asked to appear on one of the episodes. It was nice. It was a panel discussion about the relationship between kwaito and hip hop. Shortly after that, I was asked to appear in the documentary that accompanied...
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